My husband didn’t get me anything for Valentine’s Day. Do you think that means he doesn’t love me enough?
Without knowing exactly what you consider to be “enough” love, it’s difficult for me to give you an answer. It’s also difficult to know how much weight can be given to Valentine’s Day as a measure of your husband’s love towards you. Valentine’s Day may be completely irrelevant to your husband. If your relationship is based on respect, friendship and soulful connection, then the idea of making obligatory gestures as part of a commercialized, mass-frenzy of superficial love giving could seem insulting to your husband. His love for you may be so solid, deep and unquestionable that he doesn’t see the need to show you any extra evidence of this. Maybe he is just not an overtly affectionate person. This doesn’t mean that he is incapable of love, or that he doesn’t love you enough, it could just mean that he is more sensitive with his feelings and he prefers to keep them well guarded.
Having said all that, I can see how his indifference towards Valentine’s Day could be interpreted as indifference towards you, or that by him not making any effort, you could be left feeling that he thinks you are not worth the effort. These are reasonable conclusions to jump to, but not necessarily the only ones.
Has your husband been more romantic on past Valentine’s Days? It could just be that he expects you to know how he feels now, so he doesn’t see the need to go on reminding you again and again every year. Maybe he considers Valentine’s Day to be a cliché and feels that he shows you his love more frequently, in other ways.
Perhaps more important questions to be asking yourself are: Do you feel loved and appreciated by your husband in other ways? Does he value your opinion? Does he like to see you laugh? Do you tell each other your hopes and fears? Do you feel empathy for one another, and enjoy one another’s company?
Valentine’s Day is for people who want to make a show of their affection. It has very little to do with genuine love. I wouldn’t take it too seriously. Did you get your husband anything for Valentine’s Day?