I feel like my life is slipping away from me without letting me achieve any of the things I really want to do. Every year that passes I feel older, but don’t feel that I have progressed in any way. I am so busy all the time, but don’t have much to show for it. Is it unrealistic for me to have dreams and ambition? Maybe this is all I am capable of. Is this really all my life will ever be?
How satisfied are you with what you have achieved in your life? You may not have conquered the great heights you dream of, but you may have established close family ties, lasting quality relationships and inspired the lives of others through your generosity, compassion and wisdom. If you have achieved any or all of these things, there is no need for you to feel unaccomplished. Many people never succeed in achieving any of these things. Having said that, there is no need for you to compare your achievements to those of others either. All that matters is how happy your achievements make you feel. If you are happy with what you have achieved, then that is enough. Continue to enjoy the happiness you gain from doing these things.
If you feel unsatisfied, then maybe you need to re-prioritise what’s important to you and focus your integrity on living the ideal, or realizing the dream. Your life is not something that you will get around to living when all the other little distractions are taken care of. Your life is right now! And now is the time to do all those things that are truly important to you. I don’t mean that you need to stop completely everything you are doing now and jump into some momentous challenges. This sort of rash action may be too abrupt or forced and you will be unlikely to succeed in living out your expectations. Trying, and then feeling as though you have failed, will be an even more detrimental step towards achieving your goals. A more gentle approach is required.
Give yourself permission to succeed and to be all the things you have ever wanted to be. Then, believe that you can be. Hold that image in your mind. That is the true you.
Recognise the obstacles, excuses and disabilities you cling to, that prevent you from being the true you. Realize that none of these things are you and that they are burdens that you choose to carry with you.
Open your eyes wider to all the possibilities everyday presents to you, and turn down the volume on all the reasons why not to act on the opportunities you receive that will bring you closer to being the true you, or achieving what it is you truly want to achieve.
Don’t deny yourself these things. Your number one responsibility is to yourself.
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